So as i type this blog "RIP BLACK FOLKS" is a current trending topic on twitter. At first glance one would think "wow who has the audacity to start a #TT as racist as that?" Someone wants to see black people die. But then i brushed it off cause honestly...who cares about that #TT! Im seeing people (mostly black folks) on twitter literally losing their freaking minds over this topic. Supposedly its a band called "Black Folks" that is splitting up. Whether that is true or not, i dont really know right now. But for Black people to be all in a uproar over this topic is one reason why prejudice and racism still exist in our lives today. We as black folks give ignorant people like that a rise...they accomplish what they wanted to accomplish by causing black people to get all angry over a twitter topic. That shit isn't real life...aint nobody killing us off. Im still in perfect health...your still in perfect health... so why put so much energy in something so minute. For one, the fact that people are freaking out about it is why the #TT is still trending at this moment. Until us black people as a whole can live and let go then we will forever be taunted and not seen as equal. I can almost Guarantee that is the #TT was "RIP White Folks" Black people would be laughing and going in on that topic cracking jokes and what not. That is the ultimate double standard. Next imma see on the news tonight Al Sharpton going at the founder of twitter for allowing that topic to be trending. We as a race need to not be so sensitive and recognize whats real and what isn't.
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Dear Females #1
Dear Females,
If your bitter, lonely, and feel as though your shit dont stink...then this letter is intended for you. If you seem to never understand why you can attract the right guys...then this letter is intended for you. If you look down and you have a vagina then chances are this letter is meant for you. Now Im all for having certain standards that someone has to meet in order to garner interest from you. We all have standards...some lower/higher than others. I do understand the woman who wants a man who has goals in life, who is educated, who has morals and values, who is a certain religion, etc... I even understand the women who want a man to have the same interests as they do such as liking animals, being into art, enjoying long walks, etc... But in 2011 its starting to get ridiculous. Here is a scenario : "Man sees woman at mall. Woman is single. Man is pursuing his college education at UCLA, has a job as an assistant manager at Macy's, owns his own car, and has same religious background as woman. He approaches woman at mall. Man introduces himself and tells her that he thinks she is beautiful. Woman looks down and notices clear, see-through air force ones. Woman notices man is wearing FuBu shirt. Woman smiles and says she has a boyfriend." LADIES...that is a prime example of why alot of you women wonder why you cant find the right man or cant get a man at all..you want too much. And alot of cases its too much of the little shit. I understand you want a man who can dress nice...but how many other positives out weigh the negative? Why dont you be that woman to help that man dress. Some women wont date a man unless he has tattoos. What sense does that make?? He could be the nicest guy but if he aint "Tatted" he isn't grabbing your attention.... If he doesn't have Dreads he isn't grabbing your attention....If he isnt rocking the latest then he doesn't grab your attention. To me that sounds so superficial. Its even as so bad as denying a good man because of how he approached you. Im not talking about the disrespectful dudes who approach you and the first thing he is saying is " Hey Mami, Sexy, Lil mama, Shorty, etc. Im talking about the dudes that approach you genuinely and ask your name or whatever. The man is showing a interest in you and you are so quick to turn him down because he is lacking "swag" or looks too nervous or whatever. Realize that some women dont even grab male attention while at the mall and clubs. What makes you so good that you got it like that?? And you wonder why you cant find a good man or cant hold on to a good thing. You putting too much stock in the superficial things that a man has or doesn't have. Maybe its time you broke your cycle and opened your mind. Maybe its time you grow up a little bit and recognize that not every dude is the same...but maybe every dude YOU mess with is the same. Im not saying throw out your standards...but what i am saying is that maybe its time for you to look at the bigger picture.
Monday, February 14, 2011
Shut up V-Day Haters...
"Valentines day is Hella stupid..if it takes a special day for ur bf/gf to show u how much they love u then thats a shame"
"Valentines day is just a way to get people to spend money on expensive jewelery and flowers. Its a dumb day"
"I wanna say "Happy Valentines Day" to my money...Just me and you, no woman to waste it on"
Those following three quotes are direct quotes i took from my Twitter timeline this morning. HATERS! First i want to say i have no Valentine this year for Valentines day. It would be my momma but she is in L.A. this whole week soooo im solo on Valentines day. But guess what...to all you couples out there, Happy Valentines day to you and yours. I have no hatred for this day because essentially im not gonna do anything. People are so bitter about a day because they have no one to share it with. People want to argue "why does it take a certain day for you to appreciate your significant other?" First off you dont know anybody else's situation. There are men/women out there who show their significant love everyday. Their are guys out there who buy their women flowers on random occasions. Just because you aint found that person dont mean they aren't out there. Also...why does it take Thanksgiving for YOU to be thankful for what you have?? Why does it take Christmas for YOU to give gifts to your loved ones? Oh it doesn't?? Then why do you assume it takes a certain day for people to express their love to their man/woman? Valentines day is just a day to highlight couples...to put a spotlight on Love and Happiness. Dont hate because you dont have any one to share the day with. Go sit your bitter ass down and reevaluate why you lonely and bitter on Valentines day. Dont come out bashing the day and expressing why you hate it so much... cause YOU know you would be all for V-Day if your ass had someone to share it with. Im content with being single on Valentines day. I haven't found anyone who is worth sharing this day and my life with. But again, I want to say Happy Valentines Day to everyone! Just laugh at the lonely haters...
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Bad Girls Club (Mid-season review)
YES! Yes I have been watching the Bad Girls Club season 6. Ive actually been watching Bad Girls since season 4 with Tomahawk chin Natalie. I blame my sister for getting me into the show! But hey...who would of thought 7 crazy, mostly ugly, short tempered, self entitled bad girls living in a house together would be as entertaining as it is. But this season is the most annoying. None of this chicks are really bad girls in my opinion except for one...and thats the new girl. Just seems like these chicks are trying too hard! with that said, here is my review of this season "Bad Girls Club" through basically the mid way point.
Jessica : What to say about this chick? She isn't really a factor in the house at all. She kinda hood but at the same time she follows Char's lead. She isn't the most attractive...not really at all. But she is laid back and doesn't really pop off on no one. But I think when it comes down to it she would whoop any of the girls asses in the house.
Nikki : When the season first started i didn't like this chick. First off her forehead is huge...and I cringe when i see people with massive foreheads! But she was playing "practical jokes" on the other girls that weren't funny and claiming she runs the house when clearly no one runs the house. Also...what girl you know walks around saying "Bro" to everyone?? But over the past few episodes Ive been able to tolerate her cause at the end of the day...she is there to have fun and trynna do her own thing. She isnt really a bad girl to me...she is just a Brute!
Lauren : I dubbed this girl "Big Country". She is probably the only girl this season i could be friends with. She is funny cause she think she is such a bad girl.I laugh every time she pops off...
Char : This girl is the most annoying girl on the show. I dont understand why she is on the show cause she is 28 years old...you suppose to be grown and mature by that age..right?? She walks around claiming she is the most mature but she throwing clothes over the balcony and forming clicks in the house. She swears up and down she look good but she looks no better than Deebo from the movie "Friday". Im secretly hoping for somebody in the house to pull that weave out.
Sydney : D.I.R.T.Y. G.I.R.L. !! That describes her in a nutshell. She has her moments where she can be attractive...the red hair is actually hot. But then she started sucking random dick and then kissing her man dude afterwards...kissing random dudes at the club. Thats just dirty...I think she left the show because she knew she couldn't control herself...hormones were too much to handle. DIRTY GIRL
Kori : She is pretty attractive...but isn't really relevant in the house. She is another who follows behind Char. Maybe later on in other episodes she will stand out and be somebody.
Ashley : In my opinion...the baddest chick in the house. And not only because she is sexy but also cause she has a free spirit attitude. She in the house basically doing what she wants and doesn't feel she needs to bow down to anyone (Char) because she is the new girl. I actually was going to stop watching the show until she replaced Jade's weak ass. Now imma watch the rest of the season. Ashley...if your reading this...Holla at me.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Why do Black men keep dating women that are not black?
“Why do Black men keep dating women that are not black?” <--- I do not know the answer to this question but I CAN tell you one thing about this question : I hate hearing it! I hate hearing black women rip a black man for dating or simply being attracted to a woman outside of his race. I hate hearing Black men get on other black men about dating outside his race. And dating outside one's race isn't just a "black" and "white" thing, but I figure because I am black and I have experienced and witnessed the type of tongue lashings alot of black women give out to their fellow black men for their interracial choices, Ive decided to highlight this particular topic. Now to start...I love women. Black, White, Mexican, Asian, Indian, etc... it doesn't matter to me. To me, "true love" has no color nor boundaries. That is just the way I was raised. I was taught growing up not to see color but to see character. But thats just me. It is just sad to hear black women condemn black men for dating outside his race...like he is some sort of sell out or something. Maybe he isn't attracted to the fake hair. Or maybe he isn't attracted to the "me against the world" attitude that alot of black women seem to unnecessarily have. Maybe he is just genuinely attracted to Asian women. Who knows? I hear black women all the time say "Oh he couldn't handle a strong black woman like me so he had to get a white girl" or "It find it so disrespectful for that brotha to be with that white girl" or how about "How come most successful black men get a white girl? They just ashamed to be seen with us black women in public." When i hear this come out of a black woman's mouth I instantly want to round house kick them to the throat. Shutup! Its that kind of thinking that will inhibit us as humans and a society to grow and abolish racial issues. It is what HE is attracted to...so how does it affect you? Alot of Black women take it personal when they see a black man with another race like he is dating her just to make them mad. Interracial relationships are growing because schools are becoming more and more diverse and media is exposing it more and more. Please people remember that only a few generations ago black and white children didn't even go to the same schools.This is what us as black people wanted. Right? We fought to abolish segregation. We fought to be equal with the "white man". We fought for a better America. And yet alot of black women bring us back 60-70 years with asking this question: “Why do Black men keep dating women that are not black?” Its time for black women to embrace the change. Keep in mind, according to the 2000 census only about 2% of all marriages in America are between a black man and white woman. Doesn't seem like a lot to me which means that the majority of black men are still dating black women. A few of my friends are black but prefer to date women who arent black. They say, because of their experiences with black women they arent too attracted to them sexually and/or emotionally. And I say to them...to each its own! What...because they are black they are suppose to genetically be attracted to black women? Thats like saying "because he is a man he should be attracted to a woman and vice versa!" I believe most people are born or have gone through experiences that make them attracted to who they are attracted to. Who are YOU to judge? I think alot of black women need to check themselves! I hear black men say "Well not alot of black women are in college where as other races are that I interact with daily" or "I am not with the drama and drama seems to be code for "Strong and independent" in the black community today". I think some black women need to spend less time worrying about why black men are dating other races and spend more time trying to understand why they DON'T have a man of any race at all.
Keep it Real
REAL <--- A four letter word so simple to spell yet so hard to be! Before I dive in I'm the first to admit I wasn't always "REAL". Being 13years old and new to Sac I put ON a little for the girls and the dudes that I was around. I felt completely different from everyone and desperately wanted to fit in. But overtime once you mature and grow you realize that putting up a front and being fake doesn't get you anywhere but lonely and depressed! Plus it is toomuch work to maintain a fake persona. Which I don't fully understand why in 2010, grown men and women still walk around and live trying to be someone they aren't. Now, not everyone is 100% REAL and thats a fact! If you claim you are then your a LIE. If you were you wouldn't have alot of friends because you would hurt feelings too much. You still eat your aunts bad cooking and put a smile on your face because you don't want to hurt her feelings. You still tell your homegirl that she looks good in her "Baby Phat" jeans knowing she is busting the seams right out them things. You still smile at customers at your job even though they are pissing you off at that very moment because they don't understand that the 2 for 1 sale ended yesterday. Everyone doesn't keep it all the way real. But thats okay because that is how life works. BUT beingREAL about who you are and the morals you believe in and staying true to that is what is important in life. And in my opinion, alot of people have lost sight of this. They rather impersonate instead of originate. They rather cater to what people want to see and hear instead of do what is actually REAL. I see men who would rather tattoo their whole body with permanent art that doesn't mean anything to them just to impress women who are LIL WAYNE fans. 20 years from now those same women will have grown up while you are regretting what you look like in the mirror. I see men who want to make it in the "rap game" so bad that they will lie about the money they have, the cars they drive, and the drugs they sell. Bruh...you grew up in ELK GROVE! What street violence did you have to endure? You work at Rite Aid... how you riding to the club in a Bentley popping bottles in VIP section every night? Just KEEP IT REAL. I rather keep my integrity and have my peer's respect then to beFAKE! I hear women talk all the time about how they want this and that in a man but end up with the complete opposite. If you want a nigga thats going to smack you around and suck you of your youth then at least be REAL about it. I hear women all the time talk about how money and sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but those same women FUCK another man who is wining and dining them. If you are superficial and thats all you want ladies then just beREAL about it. You would at least get my respect. I see people who cant even keep it REAL about the girls they have or the places they have been. To many "Mr. Me Toos" out there in the world and you look like a fool once you are caught up. I find it sad when you have to fake situations you have been in just to sound like you know something. I have conversations with some people who like to talk about the car the WOULD HAVE got if it wasn't for this/that or the degree they WOULD HAVE had if this/that. Just be REAL! You driving that car cause your grandma gave it to you cause you couldn't afford one...or you not getting no degree because you got all F's. I think people are scared to be looked down upon or scared to be judged which leads to FAKEASSNESS which eventually leads to BITCHASSNESS! Everyone is judgmental in some sort of way so get over it and deal with it. Just prove to the people who judged you that they didnt really know you. Dont result to being FAKE cause in the end you look like a damn FOOL.
REAL is a trait that seems to be lacking in my generation and its sad. No one wants to be themselves. People claim they are real but actions speak differently. Its time for a change. Look in the mirror and ask yourself..."Do people know me for who I really am?" And i know you are gonna have two different answers in your head to that question...so before you answer just remember : KEEP IT REAL
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