Dear Females #1

Dear Females,

If your bitter, lonely, and feel as though your shit dont stink...then this letter is intended for you. If you seem to never understand why you can attract the right guys...then this letter is intended for you. If you look down and you have a vagina then chances are this letter is meant for you. Now Im all for having certain standards that someone has to meet in order to garner interest from you. We all have standards...some lower/higher than others. I do understand the woman who wants a man who has goals in life, who is educated, who has morals and values, who is a certain religion, etc... I even understand the women who want a man to have the same interests as they do such as liking animals, being into art, enjoying long walks, etc... But in 2011 its starting to get ridiculous. Here is a scenario : "Man sees woman at mall. Woman is single. Man is pursuing his college education at UCLA, has a job as an assistant manager at Macy's, owns his own car, and has same religious background as woman. He approaches woman at mall. Man introduces himself and tells her that he thinks she is beautiful. Woman looks down and notices clear, see-through air force ones. Woman notices man is wearing FuBu shirt. Woman smiles and says she has a boyfriend." LADIES...that is a prime example of why alot of you women wonder why you cant find the right man or cant get a man at all..you want too much. And alot of cases its too much of the little shit. I understand you want a man who can dress nice...but how many other positives out weigh the negative? Why dont you be that woman to help that man dress. Some women wont date a man unless he has tattoos. What sense does that make?? He could be the nicest guy but if he aint "Tatted" he isn't grabbing your attention.... If he doesn't have Dreads he isn't grabbing your attention....If he isnt rocking the latest then he doesn't grab your attention. To me that sounds so superficial. Its even as so bad as denying a good man because of how he approached you. Im not talking about the disrespectful dudes who approach you and the first thing he is saying is " Hey Mami, Sexy, Lil mama, Shorty, etc. Im talking about the dudes that approach you genuinely and ask your name or whatever. The man is showing a interest in you and you are so quick to turn him down because he is lacking "swag" or looks too nervous or whatever. Realize that some women dont even grab male attention while at the mall and clubs. What makes you so good that you got it like that?? And you wonder why you cant find a good man or cant hold on to a good thing. You putting too much stock in the superficial things that a man has or doesn't have. Maybe its time you broke your cycle and opened your mind. Maybe its time you grow up a little bit and recognize that not every dude is the same...but maybe every dude YOU mess with is the same. Im not saying throw out your standards...but what i am saying is that maybe its time for you to look at the bigger picture.